Here it is… February 25. The gym is all cleared out. Nobody’s there.
Why do you think that so many people fail when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions? Well, as it turns out, I have a theory.
It’s because they set a goal. WAIT!!! WHAT?!?! They set a goal. Yep, that’s what I said.
See, what happens is that they say, “I want to lose 30 lbs by April 1st.” Nice goal. It’s just how “they” teach you to do it. It’s QUANTIFIABLE. It’s got a date attached. The goal setter may have even written it down and put it on the mirror in the bathroom. (And BTW- realistically, this may be EXACTLY what some people need to “Lose 30 lbs by April 1st”). But, here comes the problem… it has an END date.
SO, what happens after April Fool’s Day? Well, you can relax… after all, the goal was reached. Now we can go back to living like we were living before the goal was set.
I propose that we put SYSTEMS in place instead of goals. Successful people don’t “go on a diet”. Successful people CHANGE. They change permanently. They decide that they are going to only eat steak once a month. They decide that they are going to go to the gym for a one hour work-out 4 days a week. They start getting up early so they can get a head start on the day. They make these small changes… changes in their SYSTEM of life, and that is how they reach their goals.
Now, you may say at this point… I know I did… “Wait a second!! I can’t change my whole life all at once and do it FOREVER!” You would be right. That is why you make your systematic change- ONE DAY AT A TIME.
My friend (not really my friend, but I feel like I know him ’cause I read his stuff so much) Rory Vaden says that “Success is never owned, it is only rented, and the rent is due every day.” True. The point is that in order to get what you want (anything you want), you have to do the little things each day to make it happen. You don’t have to commit for the rest of your life to not eat pepperoni pizza. Man… if I had to promise that for the rest of my life, well- it wouldn’t be good. I wouldn’t make it because I would feel so overwhelmed. (Just so you know… I reserve the right to eat a large peperoni pizza and a pitcher of beer at anytime).
I think that the best way to think of it is how they think about it in AA- Just today, I can do this. Just today, I can eat a salad for lunch. Just today, I can prospect in my business for two hours. Just today, I can make a deposit of success in my marriage.
If you put together enough JUST TODAYS- then the system will be in place and the change can be made.
I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once.