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How’s Your Gratitude?

The Dyess Boys!!

The Dyess Boys!!

I would say that I am a glass half full kinda guy. But, that glass can get half empty in a real hurry if things don’t go just right.
O.K.- let’s just say that I go and hop up on the scale. I have been working out all week and eating well and I am looking for a 4-6 pound loss for the week…. maybe this is a little ambitious, but certainly not out of the question. So- I hop and low and behold, a two pound gain. SHIT!!! ….Well, SHIT!! That sux!!! I wasted all that time, effort and mental anguish. Not even to mention that I didn’t have that cake!! So now what?
The thing is… it is SO easy for me to end up having a bad day. So easy for me to say SCREW IT- I think I’ll have some wings… not gonna make any difference anyway. SO easy for me to stop trying… stop fighting. Then, what happens the next morning??? It is just a little bit harder for me to get up and get going… a little harder for me to get to the gym.

This is the story of my life. And it doesn’t even have to be the scale. I mean, I could get in a fight with my wife… which I might add happened yesterday at 5am… I mean, WTH??? How do you do that at 5a.m.? BTW- I love her and think she is great- she just pissed me off momentarily… Or, I could have something happen at work and I could just EASILY move into a Twinkies/Doritos bender… I mean, this is NOT a stretch.

But then something happens. And this is the subject of my post today… something says to me that I need to thank God for all the things that I have. These two little boys that God has entrusted to me…. it is an awesome responsibility. Sure, I would love to have a nicer house, a better car than the crappy civic that I drive. I could have a better job and make more money and be more important… but if I want to stay on this path…. if I want to do my best every day… if I want to attack every day and make it the best that I can…. I have to show some gratitude!!!
Do you let the shitty things in life get the best of you?? Or do you roll with the punches? Get back up? Dust yourself off? Keep going? Work harder? Try harder? Eat better?
It is so easy to NOT move in the direction that makes our lives better. What do you do to flip that switch and CHANGE?

“Piglet noticed that even though he had a Very Small Heart, it could hold a rather large amount of Gratitude.”  ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

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Benefits of Weight Loss- Not Just Features

feature-vs-benefitYou know, I was reading the other day about sales presentations. I know… this is just one step up from watching paint dry and going to insurance seminars… but I was. Anyway, I was reading this thing and there was a very simple yet profound truth stated. It was, “People don’t buy features, they buy benefits.” It’s true… think about it. The last time you bought a car… it did not make any difference, really, if it had anti-lock brakes- this is a feature of the car. However, the real benefit to having anti-lock brakes is that you don’t make a star in the windshield with your skull the next time you get behind some blue hair, in a monsoon, in the parking lot at Walmart. The point is, you don’t really care about something till it helps you… till it benefits you. (BTW- insurance is the ultimate in this department- there are no features… just benefits)

So, I want to explore some of the BENEFITS of losing weight… maybe you can be sold on the idea.

1. Even minimal weight loss will help with several underlying health issues. Losing 10-15% of your body weight (Say from 256-236) can lead to decrease in blood pressure and cholesterol.

2. This same minimal amount of weight loss will increase your ability to regulate blood sugar… thus decreasing your risk for diabetes.

3. Improve your breathing and mobility. Now, a lot of folks may not be as big as I was… I was getting close to 300lbs… but I have noticed that it is A LOT EASIER to tie my shoes since I lost all this weight.

4. It has helped me sleep better. I was using a CPAP machine (that was the worst, most God-Awful thing ever invented) before the weight loss challenge began with People Magazine. Actually, I was still using it a few months in… then I was able to stop. My sleep apnea was caused by the fat around my neck… it was closing off my windpipe and waking me up at night… sometimes 40 or 50 times an hour. This is one of the big things that keeps me on the right track… the thought of having to use this machine again. Also, when I started working out… I slept a lot better because I was so tired.

These are just some of the things that are real benefits to taking charge. Hope these help sell you on the idea.

“People don’t want to buy a quarter inch drill, they want a quarter inch hole.”- Theodore Levitt

Why Is Change So Hard? Some Tips To Help

Well, I know all too well about this… I just lost my job a few days ago. Frankly, I saw it coming, so, not that surprising, but shocking none the less.

Not anything that I could really help. Not my fault. Extenuating circumstances. All beyond my control. Yeah… try explaining THAT to my super-low self-esteem.

I think that change is so hard because of the unknown. That and the fact that it gets us out of our comfort zone.

courtesy of reallifecoaching.net

courtesy of reallifecoaching.net

So, I’m going to try to keep my head up and give some advice to myself about change. How it works. How I can overcome. How I can attack the problem of how I am feeling.

Well, for me, it is as simple as one thing… my comfort zone. I don’t want to change because it  HURTS!!!! Physically and mentally.

According to Amy Brooks, L.P.T.A., A.T.R.-B.C., Licensed Behaviorist at the Baptist Nutrition Center, “Making healthy changes is hard work, and many people struggle with turning their good intentions into actions.” (Quoted from the Baptist Health Systems Healthsourse newsletter)

So, here are my tips to making changes happen or easing the blow of change that you may not have sought out:

1. Get educated the more you know… the easier it will be. Lately my wife has been doing this for us. She has been finding out all about the new places that we may live in the future (I’ve had some interviews), and she is giving me all the info. Cut through all the clutter that is out there and get a feel for the unknown. There is a lot of good info available right at your fingertips.

2. Join a team- By this, I don’t mean that you have to play flag football. I mean, get some folks around you that have similar goals—-  or at the very least will support you. These may be people you already know or they may be new friends.

3. Take baby steps- it is impossible to run a marathon the first day out there training… but if you work hard… walk– then run… you can train for it in less than a year. Break your goals into small bite-size pieces!!

I think that these 3 tips can help me… and can help you if you get into a situation where change is inevitable.

FIRST SALESMAN: I made some very valuable contacts today.

SECOND SALESMAN: Yeah, I didn’t sell anything today either.

Make the Change Easy to Hit

I'm not the only baseball fan, am I? It's a change up...

I’m not the only baseball fan, am I? It’s a change up…

You know you should exercise more, right? You know that you should eat better, right? You know you know this… but sometimes, o.k., most of the time it is hard to change. Why do we resist change so much.

Well, for me, it is as simple as one thing… my comfort zone. I don’t want to change because it  HURTS!!!! Physically and mentally.

According to Amy Brooks, L.P.T.A., A.T.R.-B.C., Licensed Behaviorist at the Baptist Nutrition Center, “Making healthy changes is hard work, and many people struggle with turning their good intentions into actions.” (Quoted from the Baptist Health Systems Healthsourse newsletter)

So, here are my tips to making healthy changes happen: (BTW- you can apply these to LOTS of different goals)

1. Get educated- the more you know… the easier it will be. Follow this blog for healthy tips, tricks and maybe something funny about weight loss and change.. Cut through all the clutter that is out there. Even if you don’t regularly read this, there is a lot of good info available right at your fingertips.

2. Join a team- By this, I don’t mean that you have to play flag football. I mean, get some folks around you that have similar goals—-  or at the very least want to stay healthy. These may be people you already know or they may be new friends… just start working on it WITH someone else.

3. Keep a journal- especially a food journal. I talk to people time and time again that say… “I NEVER knew how much I was eating”… and this is true.

4. Take baby steps- it is impossible to run a marathon the first day out there training… but if you work hard… walk– then run… you can train for it in less than a year. Break your goals into small bite-size pieces!!

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”- Jim Rohn

THAT is Just Perfect

mottzar kitchenThe other night I ordered takeout, and when I looked in the bag, saw they had included four sets of plastic silverware.
In other words, someone at the restaurant packed my order, took a second to think about it, and then estimated that there must be at least four people eating to require such a large amount of food.
Too bad I was eating by myself. There’s nothing like being made to feel like a fat bastard before dinner.

Feel The Fear; Do It Anyway

bethnal-green-1On March 3rd, 1943 an air raid siren sounded in London. The citizens of London knew they were at war with Germany and that a retaliation attack was possible. But with nothing but the sound of the siren, panic and mass hysteria was the result. 1500 people tried to get down the steps of the Bethnal Green train station tunnel for protection. Londoners went into the “Tube Stations” to escape the bombs. One lady, carrying her small baby, tripped on the stairs and fell. Within a few seconds 300 people were crushed into the tiny stairwell. The chaos lasted less than 15 minutes, but 172 people were dead at the scene, with one more dying the next day.
No German bombers came that night. The largest number killed by any single bomb during the blitz in England was 68. The crush at Bethnal Green was the largest loss of civilian life in the UK in World War II. But bombs didn’t kill those people – fear did.
bethnal-green-signWhat we need to realize is that most of our fears are really nothing to be fearful about. There is a saying in Al-anon- it is- “I can’t, God can, I think I’ll let him.” To me, this means that we need to let God take care of everything. That does not mean that we lay in our beds, waiting for life to happen to us- we have to go out and make things happen, but it does mean that God will take care of us along the way.

Don’t be afraid of the unknown… it’s probably not that bad.

“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.”- Marianne Williamson

I Can Guarantee Success

Success

Success

This is true! Well, not really. I can’t do it FOR you… but I can tell you how to have success for yourself.

This principle is one that goes back to the same ole thing that I have been talking about. That is, don’t be so hard on yourself. I am the world’s worst about this, so I need to write this to make sure that I follow my own advice.

Make sure that after you have fallen off of the wagon a bit… let’s say you are trying to lose weight… and let’s say you had a bunch of fried fish (what I did yesterday)…. Don’t freak out and then just say “screw it.” The bottom line is that I have changed my life and about 90-95% of the time, I DO eat right. It is not very often that I have FRIED ANYTHING… so it is not that big of a deal. Just pick up right where you left off. And don’t be hard on yourself. You know, we are not perfect!!!

In addition to this tip, I also want to share another with you. Now, this is one that I have seen in some materials that are about change. It keeps coming up over and over, no matter what author you are reading… it is —— (drum roll) —— establish short term wins! This means that you need to pick a time frame that you can live with and eat healthy. Once you accomplish that goal, then set another one for the same time period and go for it again. This goes back to what I have been saying about one day at a time.

It won’t be long until you will be able to see and feel the difference.

If you want to stop starting over… then stop quitting.- Unknown

Stay On Course

airplane landingI was reading yesterday about navigation. Don’t ask why… just think I am a really smart guy and I sit around reading Popular Mechanics… so anyway…. reading about navigation of commercial airplanes. It seems that the way that the computer systems work is that they follow transponders on the ground. I know, this may not be a big shock to find this out, but what was shocking was that the article said that most of the time the planes are off course. Apparently, the way this works is that the planes fly for a while, then when they come to a transponder, they “course correct” or get back on course.

So, the point is- even if we get “off course” with our lives, with our goals, with whatever we are trying to accomplish, we can still get to where we are going by making small corrections.

O.K.- so it is kinda corny… but what do you want.

I just know that I can get off course just a little and I feel like just kicking myself. I need to always remember that getting back on course is just as easy as doing the next right thing… whatever that may be. And just worrying about what I am going to do today. Just today- not tomorrow or the next or the rest of the week- or the rest of my life- JUST TODAY!

Whatever you want to do, do it now. There are only so many tomorrows.- Unknown

Passion Is Over-Rated

apesWe talk about it a lot.

Sure, you can take the Meyers-Briggs (or the Dan Miller DISC profile program is EXCELLENT) but you aren’t really going to know until you try something.

I have worked all over the place. I worked at a golf course. I worked construction. I worked for my father in his hardware business. I worked for the newspaper, I worked for an aluminum siding company. I worked in a law office… I did a lot of things.  I have had a lot of life/work experience.

All of these jobs had one thing in common. They weren’t my passion. But each and every one of them helped me to know myself better and decide what I wanted to do.

I hear all the time about finding your passion… and being passionate about your work and being passionate about helping people or animals or whatever. But the bottom line… for me at least, has been that I have to find something that challenges me and something that I can make some money doing. Funny how I get excited and passionate about something when there is money involved.

Now, you may say— wow Rob, that’s not very noble. I guess its not. But it IS what keeps me excited. Helping people and helping animals and all those other things might be a by-product and that’s great— but it’s a “nice to have”… not a “got to have”.

Childhood Memories

Childhood Memories

Think about it. How many people in the world own janitorial companies. Do you really think that they are passionate about cleaning? No. Just couldn’t be. But you know what I bet they are passionate about… making some money and putting food on the table for their family. Gets pretty passionate pretty quick. They are probably passionate about helping customers and building a business and doing the marketing and I don’t know… doing the books, but all that is not the point. Those are “nice to haves”… the “got to have” is the money.

This reminds me of a story that I have about a friend of mine’s mom. We’ll call her Claudine. Claudine has worked in the insurance industry in Mississippi for many years.  She told me one time that she decided on insurance because she “got to work in an office in the air conditioning”. (This is completely reasonable  if you have ever spent a summer in Mississippi). She never said word one to me about her passion of selling insurance. She didn’t have one. But she found something that she liked reasonably well. She found something that she could do reasonably well and she did it for 50 years… as a matter of fact she just retired a couple of years ago and hated retirement, so she went back to work for a software company that sells software packages to insurance companies.

I think that the most tragic thing I hear about is people sitting around waiting for their passion to come to them… or “praying about it”— the most effective thing that you can do to find your passion is to TAKE ACTION!

“I am happy to make money. I want to make more money, make more music, eat Big Macs and drink Budweisers.” – Kid Rock

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