It seems that in the past, when I have had a bad day, or I have been depressed about something (usually because I don’t feel good about myself and where I am)… I have a tendency to think about all the negative things in my life… You know, the usual suspects- “I don’t have enough money”, “My mother is mad at me”, “I did something my wife doesn’t like, so she is miffed at me”, “my kids won’t listen to me”- You know the drill.
Well, it is time to start thinking about the good in life. The best way to do this is to write it down.
Write it down as it happens. Spend two minutes a day writing down good things that happen. “I saw this great show”, “Gee whiz, my foot does not hurt nearly as much as it did yesterday”, “Talked to my mother and we didn’t get in a fight”… whatever it is, just write it down.
Now, go out and get a notebook. Like a diary. And start…. the first entry can be “got this great notebook and I am going to write this great story”. The story is all the good things that happen to you.
Then when you are having a crappy day, it will be easy to not only go back and read about all the things that you feel thankful about, but you also get to focus on new good things to put in the book.
Someone else is happy with less than you have.- Unknown
Just a quick one today on how ridiculous this is that we have “global warming” debate… well, not that ridiculous. I think it IS getting warmer, but I think that the jury is still out on exactly WHY.
It seems that some really smart guys have gotten together… with their preconceived notions about how we are causing global warming and NOT PROVEN A THING.
You see, it is much too complex to try to say that the earth’s temperature will go up by this many degrees by such and such a time. Too hard to predict using computer models- our atmosphere, the gasses (greenhouse and others), heat absorption by the earth’s crust or by the oceans— all of these things play a factor and its just too much. There are WAY too many variables. All of these models have been “spectacularly wrong” to quote one of these really smart guys.
So, it is my humble opinion that God will take care of us… all of us. That is the one UN-VARIABLE that all of the models seem to leave out.
“The interior of the earth is extremely hot – several million degrees.”- Al Gore (It actually peaks out at about 11,000 degrees.)
I was reading yesterday about navigation. Don’t ask why… just think I am a really smart guy and I sit around reading Popular Mechanics… so anyway…. reading about navigation of commercial airplanes. It seems that the way that the computer systems work is that they follow transponders on the ground. I know, this may not be a big shock to find this out, but what was shocking was that the article said that most of the time the planes are off course. Apparently, the way this works is that the planes fly for a while, then when they come to a transponder, they “course correct” or get back on course.
So, the point is- even if we get “off course” with our lives, with our goals, with whatever we are trying to accomplish, we can still get to where we are going by making small corrections.
O.K.- so it is kinda corny… but what do you want.
I just know that I can get off course just a little and I feel like just kicking myself. I need to always remember that getting back on course is just as easy as doing the next right thing… whatever that may be. And just worrying about what I am going to do today. Just today- not tomorrow or the next or the rest of the week- or the rest of my life- JUST TODAY!
Whatever you want to do, do it now. There are only so many tomorrows.- Unknown
Sure, you can take the Meyers-Briggs (or the Dan Miller DISC profile program is EXCELLENT) but you aren’t really going to know until you try something.
I have worked all over the place. I worked at a golf course. I worked construction. I worked for my father in his hardware business. I worked for the newspaper, I worked for an aluminum siding company. I worked in a law office… I did a lot of things. I have had a lot of life/work experience.
All of these jobs had one thing in common. They weren’t my passion. But each and every one of them helped me to know myself better and decide what I wanted to do.
I hear all the time about finding your passion… and being passionate about your work and being passionate about helping people or animals or whatever. But the bottom line… for me at least, has been that I have to find something that challenges me and something that I can make some money doing. Funny how I get excited and passionate about something when there is money involved.
Now, you may say— wow Rob, that’s not very noble. I guess its not. But it IS what keeps me excited. Helping people and helping animals and all those other things might be a by-product and that’s great— but it’s a “nice to have”… not a “got to have”.
Think about it. How many people in the world own janitorial companies. Do you really think that they are passionate about cleaning? No. Just couldn’t be. But you know what I bet they are passionate about… making some money and putting food on the table for their family. Gets pretty passionate pretty quick. They are probably passionate about helping customers and building a business and doing the marketing and I don’t know… doing the books, but all that is not the point. Those are “nice to haves”… the “got to have” is the money.
This reminds me of a story that I have about a friend of mine’s mom. We’ll call her Claudine. Claudine has worked in the insurance industry in Mississippi for many years. She told me one time that she decided on insurance because she “got to work in an office in the air conditioning”. (This is completely reasonable if you have ever spent a summer in Mississippi). She never said word one to me about her passion of selling insurance. She didn’t have one. But she found something that she liked reasonably well. She found something that she could do reasonably well and she did it for 50 years… as a matter of fact she just retired a couple of years ago and hated retirement, so she went back to work for a software company that sells software packages to insurance companies.
I think that the most tragic thing I hear about is people sitting around waiting for their passion to come to them… or “praying about it”— the most effective thing that you can do to find your passion is to TAKE ACTION!
“I am happy to make money. I want to make more money, make more music, eat Big Macs and drink Budweisers.” – Kid Rock
I was talking the other day about taking things one day at a time. It seems to me, and this is defiantly one of my big downfalls- I know that sometimes I live WAY too much in the future. I sit around and worry about what is going to happen tomorrow. And I think to myself that this is too big, I can’t do it (whatever that may be).
Well, there is this article in Time Magazine a while back that made me think of this. Now, I am not comparing myself or my accomplishments by any means, but this article made me think of this exact thing. The article is about the moon landings in the 60’s. We are coming up on the 45th anniversary of the landing of Apollo 11. Well, they are talking about the astronauts and how they were chosen to go…. how they were recruited. The article states that they were chosen for their “coolness under pressure”. It says that when these guys were talking about or thinking about the enormity of what they were doing…. it served them best to not think about it. If they thought about it too much, then it would keep them from getting it done. I have heard this called, “getting up in your head.” Ya don’t want to do it… you don’t want to choke.
Now, this is a little bit different situation, but the result can be the same… don’t think about the task at hand too much. Don’t get up in your head about whatever you are trying to do. If you think too much about your goal- You will think “OMG– I have to loose 100lbs, or I want to run a marathon, or I want to write a book…. then that is too much. You may not do anything if you get that mentality. Just take it one day at a time!!
If you’re always racing to the next moment, what happens to the one you’re in?- Unknown
Mary Schmich wrote the following as an essay article for the Chicago Tribune a few years back. Everyone wanted to give the credit to Kurt Vonnegut and say that he gave the speech at MIT for commencement. But, nonetheless, it is a very good article… funny.
The first time I heard it was on the Neal Boortz show in Atlanta when I lived there back in the late ’90s/early 2000’s- Lots of good points are made- Lotta range. And don’t forget about the Sunscreen.
Here is the text of the article:
‘Ladies and gentlemen of the class of ’97: Wear sunscreen:
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blind side you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t know.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.
Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th anniversary. Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they’ll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings. They’re your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders. Respect your elders. Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Here it is… February 25. The gym is all cleared out. Nobody’s there.
Why do you think that so many people fail when it comes to New Year’s Resolutions? Well, as it turns out, I have a theory.
It’s because they set a goal. WAIT!!! WHAT?!?! They set a goal. Yep, that’s what I said.
See, what happens is that they say, “I want to lose 30 lbs by April 1st.” Nice goal. It’s just how “they” teach you to do it. It’s QUANTIFIABLE. It’s got a date attached. The goal setter may have even written it down and put it on the mirror in the bathroom. (And BTW- realistically, this may be EXACTLY what some people need to “Lose 30 lbs by April 1st”). But, here comes the problem… it has an END date.
SO, what happens after April Fool’s Day? Well, you can relax… after all, the goal was reached. Now we can go back to living like we were living before the goal was set.
I propose that we put SYSTEMS in place instead of goals. Successful people don’t “go on a diet”. Successful people CHANGE. They change permanently. They decide that they are going to only eat steak once a month. They decide that they are going to go to the gym for a one hour work-out 4 days a week. They start getting up early so they can get a head start on the day. They make these small changes… changes in their SYSTEM of life, and that is how they reach their goals.
Now, you may say at this point… I know I did… “Wait a second!! I can’t change my whole life all at once and do it FOREVER!” You would be right. That is why you make your systematic change- ONE DAY AT A TIME.
My friend (not really my friend, but I feel like I know him ’cause I read his stuff so much) Rory Vaden says that “Success is never owned, it is only rented, and the rent is due every day.” True. The point is that in order to get what you want (anything you want), you have to do the little things each day to make it happen. You don’t have to commit for the rest of your life to not eat pepperoni pizza. Man… if I had to promise that for the rest of my life, well- it wouldn’t be good. I wouldn’t make it because I would feel so overwhelmed. (Just so you know… I reserve the right to eat a large peperoni pizza and a pitcher of beer at anytime).
I think that the best way to think of it is how they think about it in AA- Just today, I can do this. Just today, I can eat a salad for lunch. Just today, I can prospect in my business for two hours. Just today, I can make a deposit of success in my marriage.
If you put together enough JUST TODAYS- then the system will be in place and the change can be made.
I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once.